Restoring Faith in Marriage: 10 Ways I Led My Husband Back to God

Marriage is designed for the glory of God, but when He is not at the center, everything else begins to fall apart. I know this because for nearly a decade, my husband and I lived in a marriage where God was an afterthought.

We loved each other, but our relationship was filled with pain, resentment, toxic cycles, and heartache. We were unequally yoked—not because one of us didn’t believe in God, but because we were living outside of His will. The enemy worked overtime, planting seeds of division, pride, and bitterness. We were two people trying to navigate marriage without the One who created it.

But God.

It wasn’t until I reached my breaking point—after years of tears, prayers, and desperately asking God to change our circumstances—that I realized what needed to change wasn’t just my husband, but my own posture before God. I needed to trust that God was bigger than my pain and that He alone had the power to restore.

If you are a wife standing in the gap for your husband, if you feel alone in your faith while your spouse resists, you are not without hope. God hears you. He sees you. And He is able.

1. Pray Without Ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)

   • Even when it feels like nothing is changing, prayer is doing more than you can see. I started praying not just for my husband to change, but for God to change me too.

2. Lead by Example, Not Pressure (1 Peter 3:1-2)

   • I stopped nagging, arguing, and trying to force him to see things my way. Instead, I lived out my faith. When he saw the transformation in me, he became curious about the God I was serving.

3. Fast for Breakthrough (Matthew 17:21)

   • Fasting broke spiritual strongholds in my marriage. I denied my flesh and invited the Holy Spirit to work in ways I could not.

4. Speak Life Over Your Husband (Proverbs 18:21)

   • I stopped complaining and started declaring God’s promises over him. Even when I didn’t see it yet, I spoke as if it were already done.

5. Love Him Like Jesus Would (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

   • I learned to love him in his brokenness—not excusing sin but extending grace. Love is what softened his heart, not my anger or frustration.

6. Stay Planted in a Faith Community (Hebrews 10:25)

   • I surrounded myself with godly women and mentors who encouraged me, prayed for us, and reminded me to trust God’s timing.

7. Surrender Control to God (Proverbs 3:5-6)

   • I had to let go of the idea that I could fix or save my husband. That was God’s job. My role was to trust, obey, and wait.

8. Forgive, Again and Again (Ephesians 4:32)

   • Resentment kept me in bondage. True healing began when I chose to forgive, even when he didn’t deserve it.

9. Create an Atmosphere of Worship (Psalm 34:1)

   • I played worship music in our home, kept Bibles in sight, and filled the space with God’s presence. Little by little, my husband’s heart softened.

10. Hold Onto God’s Promises (Galatians 6:9)

11. The enemy wanted me to give up, but God had a plan. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. What the enemy meant for harm, God turned into a testimony.

    
    

A Word for You, Wife Standing in the Gap:

If you are fighting for your marriage, if your husband is spiritually distant or resistant—do not grow weary. God sees your faithfulness, and He is working even when you don’t see it.

Your marriage is not beyond redemption. God restores. God heals. God transforms.

I am a witness.

Will you trust Him to do the same for you?

Drop a comment below if you need prayer for your marriage. Let’s stand in faith together!